I am far from my mother is mothering did not come easy for me. I have so many issues that I have to work on that I think when I am home will not be an issue at all.
I don't have anyone to ask to about things. I mean I can always ask my mother via SKype but things are easier said than done. I have been struggling and still struggling but I want to have a bit of control on things.
Slowly i managed to sort some thing out.
Like how I dont know how to stop breastfeeding. He turned 2 and my plan was to stop till he is 2. I co-sleep with my son so it is easy to just bring the boobs out and feed him while I am
half-asleep half awake. But how do you stop it when you are so use to it. I just started not facing him in bed. I also feed him more at night so as he will not be asking for milk. He would cry and cry and cry and I would give in. Some nights I am strong, most nights I am weak. But I am trying. And suddenly one night he just slept without asking for milk from me.
I have to admit though that I miss breastfeeding him. The freedom to eat as much without gaining weight =P
Then the tooth brushing. I have to admit that before its really hard that I would skip it. He wont open his mouth and would bite the toothbrush if I successfully got it in. Its just mental! Then I found out about this video from Sesame Street that involves Elmo brushing. Very v. helpful indeed! He even took the toothbrush and would brush his own teeth.
Since the Elmo incident, I would always look for things Elmo media to introduce new things to him. This potty blog entry is one of the proof that Elmo helps me more than real people =P He really does show my toddler that kids do these things.
Sleep is one of my worries before as well. While working at Domino's Pizza I go home late (3am) and this wakes him. On nights that I am not working he sleeps at 11pm and wakes up almost lunch time the next day. Its like my secret to other mothers on playgroups. When they are talking about sleep I walk away cuz my son just woke up an hour or so before the playgroup which starts 2 in the afternoon. Making him sleep 8.30 is hard. I started few weeks before he started pre-school and it was HARD! Mostly its me settling down that early too. But with perseverance, he started sleeping 8.30. I just made sure that we are in bed 8.30. Even if he sleeps that time or not… we are there. And then just like that he started sleeping on time.
Nail biting. I remember blogging about this. His teeth suffered already I think. He started nail biting after I weaned him so its safe to say that he is comforting himself with it. We are always figthing about it. Me asking him to stop and him not wanting to. This is the hardest that I have to control. It took months and months and a lot of crying (on both sides> him and me) before he eventually stop. I just notice that we are fighting less and less. And we are not fighting (about it) anymore. I'd say it took me 8 months. =( Long enough for his teeth to suffer.
But i feel better now. A bit confident as a mother to sort things out.
Since he started potty my next plan is for us to eat at the table. Or for us to eat together and him starting to eat by himself.
So i have to confess on that again dont i?
Toddler started with him eating his own food before. Somewhere between that and now is he became a fuzzy eater. From eating just about anything and everything to not eating even his fave food from before (banana, apple and yogurt). I even attended a seminar about toddler eating and it helped a bit but not him going back to eating by himself.
And that is my goal now, for us to eat together on a table and him to eat by himself. I made preparations (started today) by replacing our small dining table (which is also my ironing board, study & drawing table) to a nicer glass one.
And here he is already using the table cuz it looks cooler! He even said its nice. Its just sad that he is sick so I cant make him use the table for dinner yet. But we will use this and he will eat by himself =)
I KNOW SO
hmmmm.. i wonder if Elmo's got an eating app =P